Rediscovering Yourself
The Search for Self-Love
© 2011 GypsyJaguar
© 2011 GypsyJaguar
We are all so busy these days with all of our career, family and social responsibilities, that we often forget about ourselves. Many of us tend to completely ignore our own wants and needs, as we are always making sure that everyone else is taken care of first. We have our bosses, colleagues, friends, parents, children, significant others and even strangers that we are always looking to take care of things for. Then, of course, we have all of the housework and bills and appointments... When do we even have the TIME to think about ourselves?!!
Well, in order for us to be strong, confident and balanced individuals, we need to make some time for ourselves once in a while. Setting aside an hour, once a month and a few minutes each day is not much to ask for to take care of your own needs. We would do it for a close friend, or our kids or mate, so if not for yourself, then do it for them; because by helping ourselves, it allows us to be that much more helpful to others.
By taking care of our own needs and taking time for ourselves, it gives us the refueling energy we need to keep going. It helps us to be more at ease, confident, relaxed and fulfilled, therefore giving to others from a place of balance and love, instead of out of obligation. Feeling obligated to do things for others will only cause resentment and guilt. But, when you do things for others out of an open heart and balanced soul, it feels more like sharing and unites people with unconditional love.
"Know Thyself"
The first step to self-love is to rediscover yourself. Take some time away from others to sit and think about your own likes and dislikes. Then fill the lists out below. These lists are for your eyes only. They should be filled out as truthfully as possible. Do not worry about the judgments or opinions of others when you fill out your lists. These are worksheets to help you understand your own unique style and feelings. Feel free to copy and paste them into notepad, or print them out to work on.
Music
Make a list of music or songs that make you happy, that make you feel joy, feel strong, feel sexy, feel like dancing, feel like you are not all alone, feel at home, feel peaceful...
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Movies, Film, Theater
List the movies, film, and theatrical plays that make you laugh hard, make you feel serene, powerful, magical, that make you think, look at life differently, that inspire you to learn more, that take you on an adventure or journey...
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Books, Stories
Write down the books and stories that challenge your mind, that transport you to a different time, lifestyle or location, that help you understand people or ideas better, that change your outlook on life...
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Art
Note the art that inspires you, that mesmerizes you, that calms you, that excites you, that puzzles you, that frees you from reality, that challenges you to see differently, that shows you the truth...
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"To thine own self be true"
Quotes
Collect some quotes that you love, that express your own views and beliefs, that inspire you, that make you think, that challenge your perspective, that speak to you...
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Interests
List hobbies you have, activities you enjoy, things you like to talk about, subjects you are interested in, etc...
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Morals
Use this section to write down what you feel are strong values and morals to live by. These should be what you believe is right, what you stand for, what you feel is respectful, how you feel you and others should act...
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Boundaries
Make a list of your personal boundaries. These are what you will not tolerate in your presence...where you draw the line. Examples: I will not allow others to take advantage of me, I will not allow others to abuse me, I will not allow others to monopolize my time and energy...
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Strengths, Talents & Abilities
List all of the things you are good at, what makes you special, what your natural talents are, your abilities and assets...
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What I Love about Myself
List everything you love about yourself. List what you love about your looks, your personality, your talents, your actions, etc...
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When you're done with your lists, think about why you like the things you do. See if there are any similarities or connections with everything. Think about your lists of morals and boundaries. See if they shed any light on any issues you may have or how you may be able to strengthen your own character through them. Then think about your strengths, abilities and talents. See how they match up with your other lists. See how you can improve upon some of your natural talents and interests.
When you are ready, think about how you can actively work on expressing yourself more profoundly and enhancing your innate strengths and abilities. Look for opportunities for you to implement your talents around your local community or begin a project, on your own or with a group. Take advantage of every moment you can to learn more and always strive to improve yourself.
Personality Tests
The Keirsey Temperment Sorter and the Meiers-Briggs personality tests are excellent indicators of what your personality most likely is based on your interests, abilities, general demeanor, and the like. Unfortunately we can not post them online, due to copyright laws, but there are some versions of these personality tests available online for free at the following locations:
http://www.keirsey.com/sorter/instruments2.aspx?partid=0
http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/jtypes2.asp
http://www.personalitypathways.com/type_inventory.html
http://www.keirsey.com/sorter/instruments2.aspx?partid=0
http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/jtypes2.asp
http://www.personalitypathways.com/type_inventory.html
Also see:
Emotional Healing - Dealing With Issues - Coping with Grief - Why Bad Things Happen to Good People - Releasing Anger - Forgiveness - Acceptance - Facing Your Fears - True Strength - Rediscovering Yourself - A Feel-Good Project - Finding Your True Love
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