Perfection
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“There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow man; true nobility is being superior to your former self.”
- Ernest Hemingway
There is an instinctive force in the hearts of humans which drive them to compete with others around them. It is a compulsive desire to win, or prove oneself. Whether through organized contests, business dealings, or in everyday life, continually competing with or comparing yourself to others can end up consuming your mind with a need to achieve some sort of perceived state of perfection.
Perfection, like beauty, is in the 'eye of the beholder'. There can never be a true universal perfection as the 'judges' are forever changing. You can not go into any competition, or life in general, with a goal to beat others, for that will only lead to failure in the long run. You can not go into it with the mindset that you are better than others, or more talented. When it all comes down to it, the only way to come out on top is to be the best you can be without comparison to anybody else. By approaching things in that manner, you will always win in the end.
“Always dream and shoot higher than you know you can do. Do not bother just to be better than your contemporaries or predecessors. Try to be better than yourself.”
- William Faulkner
Physical perfection has always been a point of concern for many people. We often seek what we do not have. If we have straight hair we want curly, if its curly we want straight, if we are skinny we want more curves, if curvy we want to be skinny, if we are tall we want to be shorter, if short we want to be taller, etc. You often hear people say, "I wish I was more like him or her." We have forgotten that we were built the way we are for a purpose! Be proud of what you are because you were constructed that way for a reason. When you find your purpose in life you will see why. Look within. See what your strengths and abilities are. Make a list of what you have always been naturally good at, what you have always been drawn to, what you have always been complimented on.
You need to find your own personal individuality, not what society deems the latest fad of perfection. If you follow the media concept of perfection you will eventually lose your identity. Every year there is a new and different "IN" to live up to which starts off with the runway modelling world, is seen then in the movies, ultimately making it's way into the mainstream public. What the media shows us is fabricated. In the movies, TV, magazines, and such, it requires several takes to reach their vision of perfection. They use special lighting, make-up, hair stylists, fashion designers, carefully choreographed movements, camera angles, and then finish it off with tweaks of details like airbrushing imperfections, cutting away flaws and other editing. Just as a painter attempts to create a perfect world on his or her canvas, so do the writers, directors, actors, set designers, cinematographers, and so on. That is art. Art is only a reflection of life, not life itself. |
Do not change yourself for someone else. If you alter yourself to be a version of somebody else's idea of perfect, you are cheating yourself. Not everybody actually likes the media's or other people's ideals. Strive to reach your own personal best, instead. If you are looking for a mate, wouldn't you rather have someone who loves you for what you naturally look like and who you are typically? No matter how you look, if you don't FEEL you look or are at your best, you will send out vibes of insecurity, negativity and doubt. Both men and women are attracted to people who have self-confidence, someone who is proud of the person they are inside AND out. No one wants a needy or clingy partner. We all need our individuality and time to pursue our own personal enjoyments. A relationship is a team - one compliments the other and vice-versa. A unified front, but separately strong as well. Find your true self and your true partner will arrive as a complimentary addition to you and your life.
"When you are content to be simply yourself and don’t compare or compete, everybody will respect you."
- Lao Tse
We all want to be better people. We all want to be the best we can be. But, if we rate our progress or achievements against others, we may never reach our true goal. The key is to work on discovering and improving our own natural talents, abilities, strengths, and assets by nobody's standards but our own.
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